Confidence - sexy
Self-deprecation - not sexy
Self-beratement - not sexy
arrogance - not sexy
ego so big your head won't fit through the door - not sexy
such little belief in yourself that you refuse (willingly or not) to let anyone else believe in you - definately nowhere close to sexy
How often do you fit into which category? What makes you that way? Are they certain situations? Are they certain people? Why can't you get out?
Loosen up and let go of what others think and say. Remember, confidence is sexy.
BTW: This is as much about me as about anyone else who may be reading this post.
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I think everyone has places in their lives where they are confident and places in their life where they are not.
But what you say makes a little sense.
What do people generally think is sexy about me? My mind. I dont quite get that...but I have gotten the you have a sexy mind comment several times. Does that mean I am a fairly confident thinker?
that's a wonderful post..yes it is true..confidence is sexy..when I am in full flow during my work..or whatever I like doing..I am confident and I have noticed people getting attracted..we can call is charisma..and charisma is SEXY!!
Okay... Here's a long one...settle in. I think sexy is the wrong word. Because "sexy" subscribes to the idea of a "PHYSICAL" response to another, a Physical attraction. I can honestly say that I have never EVER been physically attractive to ANYONE who has ever met me. However, I have never lacked in the department of male friends, and I have been the center of many targets because of jealous girlfriends and me being the "other woman." Which still is really funny to me. I believe that we can be drawn to one another and NOT be physically attracted and fulfilled by one another and to never have really touched. Humor, confidence, creativity, a freedom of spirit. Things which the opposite person desires in themselves, those are the very things that "draw others in." Weakness, self-deprecation (good word btw), paralyizing fear...those are the very things we hate in ourselves and prevent our own happiness. It's even easier to hate those traits when seen in another. People like that are also A LOT OF WORK! They are exhausting. I have to admit, I've been on both sides of the fence. I've been repugnant to others because of my fears and low self-esteem. But I've also been loved very deeply by many for simply being willing to not care about what others think and to just laugh, love and live.
That's folks. I was really frustrated about someone when I wrote this one and needed a quick release of energy, as it were.
I don't think that sexy really relates only to physicality.
What I think is sexy on a man (little to no chest hair) is different than what you may think is sexy on a man (lots of curly chest hair). heeheehee.
Sexy is something that turns you on. It could be a mind, a smile, confidence, voice (think Barry White here, not Barry Manilow).
Excellent point, Robin, excellent point.
So true, too.
I dont have appealing chest hair by anyone's estimation. It is there but a little bit scragly.
Actually, I think I am more objective and realistic that anything about my appearance.
Being overweight and being a minister both hurt me with the ladies. But so does being stubborn and a little obstinate at times.
On the other hand..there are a lot of things about my appearance that work for me and others (I would never want to be under 6ft for instance--nor would I want to be under 200 lbs). And generally think I am a fun pleasant guy.
That is until my mojo gets shot to hell by getting turned down for a date or getting seated in a booth that is too small.
Umm, don't allow one (or each) rejection to shoot you down. Allow it to sharpen your character and move along.
Oh, ask for a table? I like tables myself because they allow me to be close to the table to eat and then push back and relax when I'm done. Ahhhh.
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